Over the years being a parent for my children l could say it was not an easy road for me but through learning and getting as much information on how well l can take care of my children. This has proved to be the easiest part of my life as l communicate with my children and share all sorts of stories with them to. The most important thing a parent can do is to encourage toddler talk with them whenever they have any problem.
With many information available online on how to take care of toddlers. I found out that this article ” Why Teenagers Don’t Talk to Their Parents and What You Can do About it Now With Your Toddler ” was of greet help to me and wanted to share this information with you all mothers out there. The article is from Peaceful Parents Confident Kids and it did help me know how well l could take care of my children through communicating with them and understanding what they needed.
Why Teenagers Don’t Talk to Their Parents and What You Can do About it Now With Your Toddler
Imagine if your son came home from school after spending the day coping with peers calling him names and throwing his back pack on the toilet block roof. Imagine then if he were to say nothing to you about it but instead went straight to his room. Would you want to have the opportunity to talk to him about it? How about if your daughter was struggling with her peers pressuring her to take drugs, would you want to know? If your daughter fell pregnant and was frightened about the huge choices she would soon be making, would you want her to be able to come to you for help? If she chose to abort the child, I know you’d want to know about that!
Responding to these questions is confronting and uncomfortable. We would all like to pray and hope that our children will never find themselves in these situations but we would be naive to think that our children are completely immune from the perils of adolescence.
So, what do we need to do to foster this open relationship?
To create that open, trusting relationship we need to be mindful of the way we parent them now. It is now that we are laying the foundations for our relationship in the years to come.
We need to admire and respect them for who they are – warts and all! With unconditional love, support and understanding, no matter how testing the behaviour, we must send our children the clear message that not only will we always accept them for who they are, we will always support and help them with kindness and understanding when they are having a hard time. They need to know that they can always be confident and proud of who they are no matter the short-comings they may be attributed and we can relay this to them in our interactions with them.
How can we demonstrate acceptance and understanding on a daily basis?
Janet Lansbury, a parenting teacher and RIE (respectful parenting) associate taught me that when our children are having a hard time and displaying testing toddler behaviours, this is our opportunity to show them we are open for them to communicate to us their pain. We can show them understanding by reaching out to them during these times and acknowledging their frustrations. We can say things like, “It seems you are having a hard time playing with your sister, I will sit here with you so I help you.” And then do it. Keep them both safe and show compassion and understanding to both siblings as they both have their own demons to deal with.
If we punish them by taking away their favourite toy or sending them to their room, or showing them the same aggression they might be displaying towards their sibling, not only do we send them the message that we don’t want to try to understand them but we also close the door on the one more opportunity to communicate and connect.
When they fall and bump their knee and begin to whine or cry, we can let them know we empathize with their pain. It may just be a small scrape but we mustn’t try to stop their tears by telling them they are alright if they are clearly upset. By finding something to distract them with or dismissing their pain rather than acknowledging their discomfort and offering them some TLC, we are telling them, we don’t want to hear about their hurts. We only want them to be happy. Parenting is easy when our children are happy, it is when they are sad, angry or frustrated that we can truly let them know of our unconditional love, understanding and acceptance.
Whilst keeping lines of communication wide open from birth is vital in fostering a trusting relationship with children, a relationship based upon the need for approval can also cause a teen to withdraw and withhold from us for fear of retribution.
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Hope as parents we all take the time to understand our children and being able to communicate with them. As well as making sure that our children can speak freely with us on all matters of their life.