If you’re experiencing toddler behavior problems and running ragged as a result, you’re not alone. Hang on to your sanity just a little while longer by trying the following suggestions on how to tame your toddler and restore order in your life.
What Does Your Child Most Value?
Whatever is most near and dear to your child’s heart can be used to leverage your their behavior in a positive manner.
Usually a young child craves their parent’s undivided attention. Therefore, as an effective consequence to an unacceptable behavior, isolate the child without any social reinforcements.
Find a quiet room they can go to when bad behavior arises. It should ideally be a place where they can mentally, physically, and emotionally decompress without any distractions or further stimulation. If necessary, install a hidden video camera somewhere in the room if safety is a concern.
Commit to Follow Through
A child must understand their negative behavior will result in a consequence 100% of the time they misbehave. No matter what time of day, where you are, or who you are with – everything stops and you must immediately isolate the child if they start to act up.
You have to interrupt the troublesome behavior regardless of what is going on around you with something your child considers insignificant. Once this routine is established, their difficult behavior will eventually fade away.
Common Examples of Toddler Behavior Problems
1. Screaming in Public
You must be prepared to abandon everything and simply walk away from wherever you and your child are if they start to scream in public; but this does not include the whole family.
Your child should get the message that everyone else in the family can stay and have a delicious dinner and fun time at the restaurant where you’re dining while they have to go to the car with mommy who is ignoring them.
2. Throwing Food
At some point, all kids throw food. But if you begin to notice a pattern of food flying once the meal has ended, the child needs to understand they must get up from their chair and clean up the mess. It’s their mess, it’s their responsibility.
3. Excessive Biting
Children typically bite because they don’t know how to express themselves properly. A toddler doesn’t have a wide vocabulary.
They may feel frustrated, scared, or powerless and bite other children in the heat of the moment. Although this behavior is not okay, understanding the motivation behind it does help both the parent and child.
4. Most Toddlers Will Not Share
A typical 2-year-old toddler does not comprehend the idea of sharing at this young age. Until they reach the age of 4, it’s unreasonable to expect them to understand how sharing works.
Eliminate a potential problem by not taking a certain toy where other children will be present if you suspect it may result in a negative behavior.
5. Extreme Crying
Children will use any means necessary as long as it seems effective to them. Crying is a powerful type of communication. Are you rewarding your child with attention when they continue to cry?
Comforting a child who regularly cries can influence them to cry in order to get rewards. Only reward them based on their positive behavior. Attempt to ignore their crying.
Convey to your child that once they stop crying, you are more than willing to help them and address their needs – but only after they stop crying.