Teaching your children on how to behave is necessary as a parent. This is an ongoing process and can take a bit of time, especially if you have a child that demonstrates a lot of negative behavior. It’s also your job as an adult to keep your cool and learn healthy ways to discipline your child successful.
Proven Strategies That Work
If your child is giving you a hard time in terms of listening to you and generally behaving, try the following tips.
Timeout works well if a certain rule has been broken. Children ranging in age from 2 – 5 respond best to timeouts. Consider the following steps to get the most out of a timeout.
1. Choose a Space for Timeout
An ideal timeout space should be free of distractions and stimulations. In other words, it should be boring. Keep in mind the main objective is to take the child out of their immediate environment and allow them to stop and decompress.
2. Put Rules in Place Ahead of Time
Decide ahead of time which specific behaviors will require a timeout and explain why to your child. It may be necessary for you to repeat yourself at first until your child eventually understands.
3. Establish a Time Limit
The minute your child enters the space for timeout, start a timer so that both of you will know when the timeout ends. A good rule of thumb to follow is to enforce one minute of timeout for each year of your child’s age.
For instance, a 5-year-old should receive 5 minutes of timeout. If your child protests or starts to fuss, reset the timer until they are quiet. Let them know why you must restart the timer due to their behavior.
Deny Choice Privileges
If your child is opposed to cooperating, they must give up something they cherish or like to do. Here are a few guidelines to remember when restricting your child’s privileges.
1. Pick a favorite toy or activity to withhold that your child values that corresponds to their negative behavior.
2. If your child is under age 6, denying privileges will be more effective if done immediately. For instance, if your child is naughty in the morning the punishment should occur in the morning.
Do not wait until evening to enforce their punishment because too much time will have passed and they won’t understand why they’re being punished. They won’t connect the negative behavior with the consequence.
3. Always follow through so your child knows you mean business; otherwise known as tough love.
4. Never deny your child something they really need such as food, sleep, or your love.
Effective Ways to Discipline Your Child
As a parent, there will be days you’ll feel like pulling your hair out over your child’s bad behavior. However, consider these steps to avoid further conflict and ease your frustration with your child.
1. Never give in to your child no matter how high the stakes get or how frustrated you become. Giving in will only encourage future negative behavior.
2. Be consistent with the rules you’ve established each and every day. If a child thinks they can push the limits and eventually get what they want, they will do so. Frequently changing the rules is very confusing to a child.
Why Spanking Should Remain in the Past Where it Belongs
Spanking is not an ideal form of punishment. Although many people were spanked as a child and turned out just fine, research today shows evidence of negative adult behavior from those who were spanked as a child. Adults who were spanked as children are more prone to:
- Hitting their own children and/or spouse
- Anger and depression
- Alcohol and drug abuse
- Participate in violent crimes
Spanking a child teaches them that as an adult it’s okay to cause the people you love physical and emotional pain if you’re frustrated with them – when in fact, nothing could be farther from the truth.